1 AnswerIan Kerner, PhD , Sexual Health, answeredLow sexual desire in men can be a thorny issue. Some of our oldest jokes focus on men wanting sex all of the time and women fighting them off. As a result, men often feel more shame about low libido than women do, and men and their partners may have a particularly difficult time talking about it. About 10 to 20 percent of men report experiencing low desire, compared to 20 to 30 percent of women.
Like women, men may experience low desire for a variety of reasons, including changing hormone levels, certain medications and health conditions, as well as the normal process of aging. Men may also find that their sexual desire declines when their relationship is unsatisfying or other parts of their life are in conflict or stress. Both partners are often spread thin across personal and professional obligations, and men feel a cultural expectation to always want sex. In reality, men face the same fears and anxieties that can affect a woman’s sex drive. They may feel out of shape, unattractive, too stressed, or disconnected from their partners.
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1 AnswerThe four-stage model for understanding male sexual response is excitement, plateau, orgasm, and response.
After the excitement phase, a man's excitement tends to plateau or level off before he gets even more aroused. During this phase, his body approaches orgasm and he usually has a full erection. As he gets ready to come, his abs and thighs tighten, his hands and feet clench, and his breath gets quicker and more uneven.
1 AnswerDr. Jan L. Shifren, MD , Reproductive Endocrinology, answeredThe following are possible age-related sexual changes in men:
- Physical changes -- Decreased testosterone; reduced blood flow to the penis; less sensitivity in the penis
- Desire -- Decreased libido; fewer sexual thoughts and fantasies
- Arousal -- Greater difficulty achieving an erection, maintaining an erection, or both; erections aren't as rigid
- Orgasm -- Longer time required to reach orgasm; smaller volume of semen and less forceful ejaculation; less intense orgasms
- Resolution -- Body returns more rapidly to an unaroused state; more time is needed between erections
1 AnswerA man's sexual inhibition system (SIS) puts the brakes on his sexuality. Research suggests there are actually two different types of SIS. One responds to performance anxiety -- his fear of erectile dysfunction, for example. That's called SIS-1. His SIS-2 responds to his fear of negative consequences from sex, like sexually transmitted diseases and unintended pregnancy.
Like the sexual excitement system (SES) that constantly scans his environment, thoughts and feelings for things that may be sexually appealing, the SIS also constantly scans his environment, in this case for turn-offs. Sounds like a downer, but the SIS can come in handy: It's what saves a man from getting an erection during a meeting with his boss or a family dinner.
1 AnswerThe pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson first developed this four-stage model for understanding male sexual response back in the 1960s and it still holds true today:
- Excitement: Excitement starts with stimulation. That stimulation can be physical (your touch, masturbation, or some other type of contact with the penis or other part of the body), or mental and emotional (fantasy, thoughts about you, pornography, or simply gazing at a sexy billboard). Virtually anything can provide emotional fuel for an erection, depending on what a guy finds arousing.
- Plateau: A man's excitement tends to plateau or level off before he gets even more aroused. During this phase, his body approaches orgasm and he usually has a full erection. As he gets ready to come, his abs and thighs tighten, his hands and feet clench, and his breath gets quicker and more uneven.
- Orgasm: For many people, this third stage is the best part of sex. During orgasm, all that tension that's been building up is finally released. The physical signs that started in the plateau phase -- higher blood pressure, rapid breathing, muscle contractions -- kick into overdrive. This is also when a man crosses his point of ejaculatory inevitability and can't stop himself from climaxing, no matter what.
- Resolution: The final phase of sexual response occurs after your guy's orgasm. It's basically a time for his body to relax: The tension seeps out of his muscles, his blood pressure sinks, and his excitement dissipates. Lots of men feel sleepy during resolution and -- unless he's a teenager -- his penis will also take a break. This time, during which his body recovers after orgasm and he can't get an erection again right away, varies depending on his age and is called the refractory period.
1 AnswerLow male desire is at all-time high, and is likely to occur for any number of reasons:
Biological. There are many possible physical causes of low male sexual desire, from heart disease, to antidepressants, to alcohol or drug use, to low levels of testosterone. If he's ruled out other factors, it's a good idea for him to pay a visit to his doctor.
Emotional. A guy's sex drive is often closely tied to his self-esteem -- when one suffers, so does the other. The economic downturn has sent lots of men into a funk: Job changes or loss, financial worries, and depression can all add up to a low libido. He may feel like less of a man, no matter how much his partner tells him that money doesn't matter.
Relationship. Feelings like anger, resentment, and general dissatisfaction with his relationship can play havoc on a man's sex life with his partner -- but these issues don't necessarily sink his libido. Sure, he may claim he's not in the mood. But he may simply be putting his sexual energy elsewhere, whether into masturbation, porn, strip clubs, or an affair. What happens outside of the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom, and when men are bored in their relationship they tend to get bored in the bedroom.
3 AnswersDr. Georgianna Donadio, PhD,MS,DC , Health Education, answered
Male menopause is actually caused "testopause" as what occurs during this aging process is the decline of testosterone and associated hormones (androgens) that are produced by the testicles and adrenal glands.
In females, it is the estrogen and associated hormones that decline, whereas in males it is the testosterone and associated hormones which begin to diminish and create physiological and psychological changes in the individual. When testopause occurs men may experience somewhat similar physiological and psychological changes as females do.
The loss of physical muscle strength, decreased energy, sometimes change in mood, a decrease of sex drive and weight gain, can all be a part of the hormonal changes in males that occur during the normal aging process.
The same self-care that supports a healthy transition for females during menopause applies to males in testopause. Daily exercise, decreased stress, good nutrition and adequate sleep all contribute to an easier transition during this natural phase of maturity and aging.
While hormone replacement has become popular solution to menopause, and now testopause, there are important factors to be considered before considering beginning hormone replacement, which should only be undertaken while in the care of a physician.
The upside of testosterone hormone replacement is that it is now evidenced that testosterone, when taken under a prescription, has shown to enhance the following:
- Bone density
- Fat distribution
- Muscle strength and mass
- Red blood cell production
- Sex drive
- Sperm production
This can translate to better heart health, weight control, cholesterol and triglyceride regular and glucose metabolism.
There are also risks to taking testosterone, as with estrogen replacement. These include the following but are not limited to testosterone:
- Contributing to sleep apnea — a potentially serious sleep disorder in which breathing repeatedly stops and starts
- Causing your body to make too many red blood cells (polycythemia), which can increase the risk of heart disease
- Causing acne or other skin reactions
- Stimulating noncancerous growth of the prostate (benign prostatic hyperplasia) and possibly stimulate growth of existing prostate cancer
- Causing enlarged breasts
- Limiting sperm production or cause testicle shrinkage
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