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What causes shame?

We feel shame when we want to hide something. If we follow the dictates of our shame, our ability to relate to others and have others relate to us will be minimal. It is for this reason that you will benefit by translating your shame into a signal to move forward and challenge the internalized rule that is causing the shame. At the very least you will want to use your shame as a signal to reflect on what rule has been broken. It might be a core value that is central to your integrity and one you want to maintain. In that case, the feeling will be one of guilt, and once you address the wrong, the guilt for violating your own standards and values should go away. However, depression is characterized by a paralyzing sense of shame and self-recrimination that is not righted when corrective action is taken. It is therefore a call to reflect on the rules that are restricting your life and consider whether they should be challenged.
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