What can make grieving particularly difficult?

Getting through grief is always difficult, but research shows certain factors can make it harder. The path tends to be rougher if you:
  • had an ambivalent, angry, conflicted, or highly dependent relationship with the deceased
  • have experienced multiple deaths or important losses
  • have suffered from depression or another mental illness
  • have low self-esteem
Circumstances surrounding the death also make a difference. Grieving may be harder if:
  • the death was unexpected or untimely
  • the death was traumatic or violent
  • the death was from suicide or a stigmatized illness, such as acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS)
  • you bear some responsibility for the death, such as involvement in a car or gun accident
  • you helped care for the deceased for more than six months
  • you were unable to perform cultural rituals of importance to you
  • you have little social support
  • you have few opportunities to meet others or engage in new pursuits
  • you are under stress from other crises
If any of these apply, consider whether you may need extra time or support to deal with your grief. Joining a grief support group or talking with a grief counselor or therapist might be especially helpful in these circumstances.

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