How can I deal with my emotional pain during a period of grief?

Charles J. Sophy, MD
Adolescent Medicine

Try to keep a routine sleep schedule. If you need medication to help you with sleep issues, don't feel ashamed. You may also need to talk to your doctor about medication to help regulate your moods or manage your heart issues that can result from your emotional pain. Grief is a significantly stressful time.

Kathy Sowder
Be gentle with yourself, and allow your pain without judging yourself. Know that your emotional pain is a normal part of grieving, and reflects your caring and attachment for what/whom you have lost. Provide yourself with outlets for your pain, such as crying times, letter writing or journaling, and safe ways to release your anger. If your pain is interfering with your job, give yourself time after work to do your "grief work". You could look at pictures or listen to songs, or whatever may invite your grief when you have the time and space to deal with it. Including a trusted friend or family member to be with you at these times may be helpful. Be sure you get enough to eat, exercise, and get sufficient sleep. It is essential that you take care of yourself physically in order to heal emotionally. Spiritual support during this difficult time may be helpful as well. If your pain prevents you from functioning and you are unable to sleep, see your physician or a counselor to assess whether you are clinically depressed. 
Don't hold in your emotional pain. Studies show that expressing emotions greatly reduces the body's stress response. Especially during the emotional pain of grief, listen to what your body is telling you and talk with your doctor about any chronic aches and pains. Also, make sure you tend to your physical needs. Softness, warmth and touch can be healing. Eat well, making sure you choose healthy foods to keep you nourished during difficult times.

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