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How is a man's libido affected after watching the birth of his child?

Hilda Y. Hutcherson, MD
OBGYN (Obstetrics & Gynecology)

Once barred from the delivery room, men are now invited -- and expected -- to be present at their child’s birth. For many guys, it’s an exciting, if nerve-wrack­ing, experience. Yet for every new dad armed with a video camera and words of encouragement, there’s a man who rues ever witnessing the whole messy affair.

 

Sure, he’ll describe the event as “incredible” -- but secretly he regrets not just staying at the head of the bed holding your hand. Instead, he saw things he wishes he’d never seen, whether that means watch­ing a vaginal delivery or a C-section. A body part he previously associated with pleasure may now be to­tally desexualized, and he can’t go near it without flashing back to the delivery process. If you had a C-section, the scar may remind him of watching doc­tors slice open your abdomen. In either case, it’s clear that, for some men, childbirth is a libido killer.

 

Fortunately, this is one trauma that can be overcome quickly. Guys: Get back in the saddle and just do it! Even if you have to push yourself through the mo­tions of intimacy those first few times, eventually the heady neurochemical cocktail of arousal will do its job, and you’ll want to keep riding.

 

 

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