Why is body language so important in a relationship?

Dr. Stan Tatkin, MFT, PsyD
Marriage & Family Therapy Specialist

Body language is important in a relationship because it shows how the person is handling emotion. Body language is important, but not as important as being able to read each other’s faces. That requires attention, presence, and interest. Body language can be misleading if you don’t how to read a face. Generally speaking, the face is what shows emotion and the body shows how the person is handling emotion.

Dr. Mehmet Oz, MD
Cardiologist (Heart Specialist)

A wink, a hair stroke, crossed arms - every non-verbal move or action goes a long way toward communicating whether we want you to hang around or get the hell out of our face. When you consider that 90 percent - 90? - of our communication is conveyed non-verbally, then you realize that how we gesture is as powerful as what we say (The two parts of the brain that control this kind of communication are the amygdala and the cingulate gyrus, for those of you scoring at home). Truth is, women are much better at picking up and using signals than men, so women, help your man better read your signals. Reading body language correctly can help head off problems and help you better communicate verbally, rather than letting issues fester.

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