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Can gratitude improve my relationship with my partner?

Dr. Stan Tatkin, MFT, PsyD
Marriage & Family Therapy
Gratitude is the opposite of misery. That is why miserable people are never grateful. Their glass is always empty. Finding gratitude is inextricably related to reality as we are always getting more than we are giving if we really do an honest daily inventory. The human being is a selfish animal. We are always aware of what we are NOT getting and so we feel angry, resentful, envious, and deprived. If each partner was to do an honest inventory of what they have received from their partner, what they’ve given to their partner, and the trouble they’ve caused their partner, a feeling of gratitude would likely emerge.*

* This is taken from Naikan, a Japanese meditation to engender feelings of gratitude.
 
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Gratitude can improve relationship satisfaction. Researchers at Harvard and other universities found a unique way to boost gratitude among people in long-term relationships. One group of participants spent 20 minutes writing about how they met their partner, dated, and ended up together. The others wrote about how they might never have met their partner, never have started dating, and not have ended up together. Those who contemplated not being with their partners showed the biggest gains in relationship satisfaction, the researchers reported in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Relationships are a perfect place to introduce more expressions of gratitude, appreciation, and kindness. You and your partner can support each other in your quest for a happy, meaningful life.

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