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How can I avoid spending time with hurtful people?

Karen R Koenig
Psychology

This is tough but essential to self-care. Here’s a bulletin that may astound you: You are not obligated to be around anyone who is regularly not as nice to you as you are to him or her. That includes folks who invalidate, belittle, and ignore your feelings, are purposefully hurtful, don’t care how you feel, and are neglectful or abusive. I don’t care who these people are, you want to stay as far away from them as possible. Stop feeling sorry for them and realize that they push people away and it’s their own fault. Obviously, you can’t always avoid certain people - a boss, parent, relative, or neighbor. But you don’t have to court their company either. Limit contact with people who detract from your life, whether they like it or not.

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