How can I express my true feelings without feeling badly?

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Karen R Koenig
Psychology

To express your true feelings without guilt and shame, you should not:

  • Automatically say yes because you think it’s expected or you’ll feel guilty saying no.
  • Be afraid of speaking your mind appropriately.
  • Let guilt or fear of experiencing it dictate what you choose to do or not do.
  • Lie to yourself or you’ll end up not knowing what you really feel.
  • Think that people can’t tolerate or get over hurt feelings, because they can.
  • Avoid conflict because it makes you or someone else uncomfortable.
  • Allow others to mistreat you without speaking up about how it feels.
  • Silently tolerate ongoing physical, sexual, or verbal abuse - ever.
  • Stew in silence, deny your feelings, or let them build until you’re ready to explode.
  • Act passive-aggressively (let negative feelings out in a vague, indirect way that you don’t have to be accountable for) because it’s easier than being direct.
  • Let people decide for you what’s okay and not okay for you to say.
  • Assume that people know how you feel if you don’t tell them.
  • Allow yourself to become a scapegoat or whipping girl without protesting immediately.
  • Assume that other people can’t handle your authentic feelings.

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