How does attachment lead to pain?

Lisa Oz
Health Education

Whenever you have attachments - to people, things, or situations - there exists the inherent risk that they could be taken from you. This opens you up to the constant possibility of pain. When you lose something you care deeply about, you suffer. The Buddhist solution to this unpleasant reality is to shun attachment.

We all have things that we feel we cannot possibly do without. However, the fact is that we came into this world with nothing and we will go out the exact same way. The only difference will be who we have become. Even the people in our lives are impermanent. On the purely physical level, people will leave us or we will leave them. The measure of a relationship is its depth of commitment and its quality of connection, not its duration. We cannot let our fear of loss become an excuse for not loving . . . or living. Although real loss generates profound pain, most of us do not live with this sort of emotional trauma on a daily basis. Nevertheless, we do not seem to be happy. We grumble and complain about everything from an obnoxious neighbor to overcooked fish. We sulk, scowl, frown, and whine. This kind of negativity is not transformative. It only helps to make you miserable.

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