How can I let go of depression if a loved one is depressed?

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One obstacle to healing from depression is the attachment to and identification with a loved one who is depressed. When a person has grown up in a family where a parent or sibling was significantly depressed, he may identify with the loved one through the feelings of depression. If this is the case, then letting go of the depression is terribly threatening because it may feel like letting go of the parent or sibling. For example, a woman who is depressed and whose mother is or was depressed may use the depression as a means of maintaining her connection to her mother, and she may feel that she would be abandoning her mother by letting go of the depression. The best way to confront this obstacle is to consider whether it applies to you, and stay aware of it. If you have a depressed relative you are deeply attached to, you may want to confront this obstacle by telling yourself that the best thing you can give to that person is to make your own life work. Your happiness is always a gift to those who care deeply for you.
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