How can people with depression use body language to socialize effectively?

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Dr. John Preston, PsyD
Psychology Specialist

You may be feeling so bad that you interact with others in ways that discourage bonding. Here are some ways to practice effective social skills:

  • Face the other person squarely. Make sure your hips and shoulders are an equal distance away from the person to whom you’re speaking. Avoid nervously picking at objects, touching your face or hair or playing with your hair while talking to others. If you’re seated, lean slightly toward the other person to indicate your interest, but not so far that you’re intruding into the person’s personal space.
  • Speak loudly enough so that you can be heard, but not so loudly that you overpower others’ voices. If you aren’t sure how effective your speaking voice is, ask a trusted friend to tell you how your voice comes across. Practice speaking from your diaphragm while standing with your feet squarely on the ground and your legs slightly apart (about the width of your hips). Your legs should be relaxed and your chest expanded, with your shoulders held slightly back. Vary your vocal tone. Try not to speak in a monotone; use a variety of tones and vary the tone of your voice depending on the mood of the conversation.
  • Relax your face when talking to others. If you tend to clench your jaw, practice relaxing it. Smile when greeting others. Practice keeping an open, natural, relaxed facial expression.
  • Make eye contact with others when speaking to them, but don’t stare. Although there’s no rule about how long to maintain eye contact, we recommend breaking the contact after about five to eight seconds. Then look away briefly and make eye contact again.
  • People like it when you’re interested in them, so stay interested in the person with whom you’re conversing. You can keep a conversation going by asking sincere questions about what the other person is saying. Self-disclosure can help people to relax and bond, so when appropriate, be sure to talk about yourself, too, with the two following caveats: Be sure not to turn every conversation around to your experience, and make sure you disclose only appropriate information and only at appropriate times.
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