What is the best way to build my child's self-esteem?

Michele Borba
Here is a behavior makeover that not only helps your child recognize his personal talents but also boosts his self-esteem. There are three parts.

   1. First: Identify your child's positive qualities or strengths that do deserve recognition. Is she artistic, musical, kind, honest, reliable, graceful, organized, friendly, positive, sensitive, courageous, spiritual, loving, sensitive, resilient, persevering, hard-working. Choose one - but no more than two assets you want your child to recognize about herself right away.
   2. Next: Start acknowledging the strength. At first give one strength messages a day and gradually work your way up to two to four reminders. Make your praise specific by adding "because": "You are so graceful because your body moves so smoothly to the music." "You're very artistic because your drawings have such great color combinations."
   3. Strengths must be nurtured so find ways to cultivate your child's so he can demonstrate it to others. If you have a budding artist, give him art lessons and take him to that museum; your little athlete might enjoy that summer soccer camp.

Every child deserves to wake up each morning knowing she is special. By helping your child recognize her unique talents and specifically praising the asset you will enhance your child's strength awareness as well as increasing her self-esteem.

You can find more behavior makeover tips in the book, No More Misbehavin.' Whatever you try remember to consistently use the method until you do get the change you want.

The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries

More About this Book

The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries

Today show's Michele Borba's cures for difficult childhood behaviors In this down-to-earth guide, parenting expert Michele Borba offers advice for dealing with children's difficult behavior and hot...

Continue Learning about Boosting A School Age Child Self-Esteem

Why should I nurture my child's healthy self-esteem?
Although it’s hard to measure low self-esteem in a scientific sense, studies show that it is a risk ...
More Answers
How can I help my child develop self-esteem?
Erik FisherErik Fisher
Here are some things that you can do to help your child feel empowered from the inside out: 1. ...
More Answers
How can I increase my daughter's confidence?
John BerkowitzJohn Berkowitz
Self-esteem is a person's core belief about himself or herself. A person's self-esteem is reflected ...
More Answers
How should I praise my child to help boost self-esteem?
Michele BorbaMichele Borba
Everyone loves praise, and kids are no exception. But keep in mind that not every little accolad...
More Answers

Important: This content reflects information from various individuals and organizations and may offer alternative or opposing points of view. It should not be used for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. As always, you should consult with your healthcare provider about your specific health needs.