How can I feel more attractive?

Rather than resolving to “fix” yourself externally, try making a more practical and important resolution: to boost your beauty self-esteem. You can close the doors on past negative judgments you made about your appearance and open other doors that allow you to see greater potential in the attractive traits you already possess.

Create your own definition of beauty. Forget about comparing yourself to models and limiting beauty to external appearance. Instead, think of yourself as the whole person you are and strive to be attractive in how you think about and act towards yourself and others.

Look inward for the foundation of your beauty. By paying attention to the internal as well as external self, “we feel stronger, stand taller and have more confidence," psychologist Vivian Diller, Ph.D., told us. ”A positive attitude and confidence are the keys to feeling attractive, and you don't need a plastic surgeon to achieve that."

Have realistic expectations of yourself. Learn to accept the genes you were dealt and to work with them. To get a more balanced self-image, Diller suggests standing in front of a mirror and imagining your closest friend pointing out three physical qualities and three personality traits that are the most appealing about you. Work on highlighting those fabulous features.

See your attractiveness as a work in progress. "Self-improvement is always possible, both inside and outside,” says Diller, lead author of Face It: What Women Really Feel as Their Looks Change. “Follow good health routines, eat well, sleep enough and stay out of the sun and away from alcohol.”

Check in with yourself from time to time to see if you are slipping back into past negative beliefs about your appearance or are instead working to increase your beauty self-esteem. Stay positive and give yourself credit for all of your beautiful efforts.

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