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What are positive aspects of having a partner with Asperger's syndrome?

William Stillman
Health Education Specialist

How refreshing to respond to your proactive inquiry about having a partner with Asperger’s Syndrome. As a person with AS myself, I’d like to offer my personal insights for the positive aspects to having a romantic relationship with an “Aspie,” which may include (but are not limited to):

  • We say what we mean, and mean what we say; being so literal, you’ll always know where you stand because we rarely lie (and when we do, it’s pretty transparent).
  • We perceive the world with an unconventional logic and perspective, thus we may be avant garde in our aesthetic interpretation through myriad creative outlets.
  • We are consistent and predictable, meaning we can be relied upon to honor our commitments and you could set your watch by us.
  • We tend to have great memories for detail and retaining pertinent information (although you will want to clearly state, “This is something to remember” such as social protocols or important dates).
  • We have a keen sense of right and wrong, justice and injustice, and can be very passionate about various causes, to the point of activism.
  • We are great readers, researchers, video game players, and movie-watchers. We can be outstanding raconteurs (sometimes talking too much!) about a broad and diverse variety of topics.
  • When we love, we love hard and for keeps. Our loyalty and commitment is a sure thing (but when we are hurt romantically, we’re devastated).
  • We will be the yin to your yang, and will be the voice of logic and reason to lend balance and homeostasis in the relationship.

*Asperger syndrome, or Asperger's, is a term that is no longer used as a formal diagnosis. In current diagnostic criteria, the syndrome is included under the diagnosis of autism spectrum disorders.

Chantal Sicile-Kira
Mental Retardation & Developmental Disabilities Specialist

The positive aspects of having a spouse with Asperger's Syndrome can include the realization that they are in most cases loyal, honest, and dependable. Those who are diagnosed as adults may have known that they were somehow different; a diagnosis may make them feel empowered and relieved, and may give them a way to find strategies that can help them.

*Asperger syndrome, or Asperger's, is a term that is no longer used as a formal diagnosis. In current diagnostic criteria, the syndrome is included under the diagnosis of autism spectrum disorders.

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