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How do I reassure my adopted child that I'm not going to abandon her?

Michele Borba
Psychology
The central fear of adopted children is that they will be “given up” again. Your child needs assurance -- both now and forever -- that your relationship is permanent.

“Yep, my parents are stuck with me forever” is a fine peer response. And “Sorry, you’re stuck with me forever” is a glorious parent response to your child.
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