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Why should I discuss grief with my child with ADHD?

If you track your attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) child's bad behavior, you may notice that days when she is especially disruptive may be days when you yourself are under a great deal of stress, out of whack emotionally, or highly sensitive. Many times, these negative undercurrents rise up on anniversaries of some loss or some other reminder of grief. Both you and your child can find relief from any undercurrent of sadness or anger left over from major losses by sharing your personal grief with your family. This will also teach your child how to effectively handle grief. Many parents think they should hide their grief from their kids. However, even when you think it's well hidden, kids can often sense that it's there and will usually go ahead and act it out. In addition, by bringing your feelings of grief out into the open, you demonstrate to your child that sadness and anger are normal reactions to loss and are best expressed and shared with those you love.

You can impress these important lessons on your child by choosing a time to get out a photo album that has pictures of someone you love who lives far away or has died. It may be a family member or friend. Tell your child stories about this person and openly share your feelings with your child. If you feel the need to cry, it's okay to do so. Your child will not be hurt by seeing her mother or father cry. Tell your child that your sadness is a reflection of how much you love this person and that it's a healthy reaction. You can show your child how to recover from sadness by telling her how much your life is better because of this person and that you honor this person's life by remembering how they enriched your own life. This will teach your child the full cycle of coping with loss: grieving deeply and honoring the contribution that person made to enriching your own life.
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