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Why do adults with ADD find it hard to let go?

As an attention deficit disorder (ADD) adult, you have the ability to almost channel what other people are thinking and feeling. Typically you are profoundly emotionally engaged and read others exceptionally well. You connect intuitively with others -- often anticipating what they are about to say -- and are highly attuned to interpersonal dynamics. Indeed, you may even find yourself feeling what the other person feels.

This entanglement with others can make it very difficult for you to let go once you connect. Letting go can be even more difficult because those you have connected with have passed through your BS detector and stayed with you, even though you may have thrown into their faces all the defenses, phoniness, and barriers you sounded out. One of the traps ADD adults frequently fall into is taking the interpersonal connection too far and not letting go when the other person is not connected at the same level. Sometimes ADD adults feel they know another person better than the other person knows himself. Although this may be true at some level, it doesn't mean the other person will be motivated to connect.

For this reason, ADD adults need to learn to grieve and let go. One of the most important steps in letting go is giving yourself permission to be wherever you are in your grief. For example, you may feel that you don't want to let go. That's okay. If so, be fully present in not wanting to let go. Don't try to jump over wherever you are now to get to the stage of being able to let go -- it won't work.

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