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How should I deal with temper tantrums in my child with ADHD?

The difference between punishment and positive reinforcement has dramatic consequences for your attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) child's behavior and your relationship with her. When you chose to ignore the temper tantrum, you were taking away one reinforce for such behavior. It may be that by throwing a temper tantrum your child successfully takes your attention away from something else and puts it back on herself. Although your attention in such cases is negative, it may be experienced as rewarding for a child. In fact, children can often stop a temper tantrum quickly if it doesn't receive any attention, positive or negative. Additionally, over time temper tantrums will be less likely to occur if they are not given attention. Just ensure that your child is safe and make sure that she doesn't engage in any behaviors that could hurt herself or others.

More important than not reinforcing bad behavior is to offer positive reinforcements for good behavior. Positive reinforcement is effective because not only will it increase the good behavior, it will increase your child's self-worth and her sense of connection to you. If your child feels that you value her, she will be more likely to feel she can share her thoughts and feelings with you. The more she can share with you, the stronger your relationship will be. The strength of your relationship with your child is the single most powerful factor in preventing bad behavior.
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