- To begin, talk to your child about how her excess energy can be thought of as a powerful motor that drives her. Ask her to draw a picture of the motor. Encourage her to talk about what the motor feels like and how fast it makes her go. Ask her to pay attention to the motor while she's at school and just notice when it speeds up or slows down during the day.
- While driving her home from school, or once she gets home, check in with your child and ask her what she noticed about the motor. Listen carefully as she tells you about her experience. Here are some questions you might ask her:
- Where in your body do you feel the motor?
- How big is the motor?
- How fast is it?
- What color is it?
- When does the motor speed up?
- What happens before it speeds up?
- What happens after it speeds up?
- When does it slow down?
- What happens right before it slows down?
- What happens right after it slows down?
You can also suggest to her teacher that your child be given certain responsibilities that involve tinkering, such as setting up audiovisual equipment, as a strategy for calming her down. You can also suggest to the teacher that he value and praise her abilities. Similarly, at home you may want to offer a great deal of validation and approval of her work with mechanical objects. In this way, she can receive approval and increase her self-worth by doing activities that are intrinsically rewarding to her.
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