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How can I be supportive of my child with ADHD?

One thing researchers have determined about treating people with behavioral and emotional disorders is that the relationship to the client is one of the most powerful factors in helping that person change. The same concept applies to your relationship with your child. So, in order for you to help your child, you must have a supportive relationship with him. Many times, a child's problematic behaviors cause frustration in parents, making them antagonistic toward their child. This reaction is understandable, because children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) do require an enormous amount of energy and attention, and their behavior can test a parent's limits in many ways. Also, because of the pressures from educators and health care professionals, parents may feel compelled to apologize for their child's behavior, which amounts to an admission that the child is in the wrong, rather than defending the child or pointing out his strengths.

The more frustrated you become with your child, the more he will feel hurt and act out in ways that cause problems for himself and others. The more you can see your child's difference as a gift rather than a disorder, the stronger your relationship will be and the more helpful you can be. Further, because your child may interpret the diagnosis as invalidating, he may believe that you buy into the view that he is defective and assume that you lack confidence in him. In order for you to use the tools in this book most effectively, you need to find ways to make your child feel that you are on his side and that you think very highly of him. Your relationship with your child will be a powerful agent for transformation.
The Gift of ADHD: How to Transform Your Child's Problems into Strengths

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The Gift of ADHD: How to Transform Your Child's Problems into Strengths

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