Shame causes things to stay the same. Guilt causes one to try, and do, or act differently in the future regarding that for which they feel guilt. Therefore one could say guilt causes things to change. Shame, is an internalized message that essentially states that you are not deserving of any form of redemption. It reinforces the idea (s) that one is inherently bad or as my colleague stated, "broken". Only this is something that is broken and cannot be fixed, which is the central skewed thematic idea or value association of shame. Shame is very much like a fixed delusion, that the bearer is hard pressed to overcome because they so strongly believe it and it's dictates. It is important to note that shame can be overcome, as can self-hatred and other such similar mentally malignant manifestations. The solutions seem to be primarily rooted in the act of learning to love yourself again. This will come from you doing when and wherever you can acts of altruism. The more you help others the better you will begin to feel about yourself. If there was ever an issue that demanded that you get out of self and into helping others it is this issue. Shame is not something you
need to overcome, it is something you
must overcome if you are ever
to assert a new life in recovery.
Shame causes things to stay the same. Guilt causes one to try, and
do, or act differently in the future regarding that for which they
feel guilt. Therefore one could say guilt causes things to change.
Shame, is an internalized message that...
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