The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take
action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to
lend a hand to other victims. Many possibilities unfold. Some
choices keep suffering going; others alleviate it.
Before talking about the deep roots of suffering, we should pause
over the choices that everyone can make when stage three begins:
Hold each other in loving
awareness.
Speak gently.
Resist viewing negative images over and over.
Walk away when a conversation contains negativity.
Keep your life as structured as possible - this is especially true
when dealing with
children in the aftermath of tragedy.
Try not to be alone - eat meals as a family, allow friends to offer
consolation, even
when being around others may be painful.
Forgive yourself when you feel like a victim, but take steps to
grow out of victim thinking.
Allow for someone else's point of view. It is difficult to express
inner pain, and we all do it imperfectly. What may seem like anger
and frustration from others is often the best they can do.
The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take
action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to
lend a hand to other victims. Many possibilities unfold. Some
choices keep suffering going; others alleviate it....
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Deepak Chopra answered:The third stage of suffering comes when you feel that you must take action, either to heal or to strike out against the attacker or to lend a hand to other victims. Many possibilities unfold. Some choices keep suffering going; others alleviate it.
