How can I manage grief from the death of a loved one during the holidays?
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Dr. Joshua C. Klapow answered:The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time of the year, but for people struggling with the death of a family member or other loved one, the holidays can be a difficult time. The holidays are such an emotional time that they can trigger strong feelings even if a loved one died several years ago.
Here are four actions that will help:
- Plan for the holidays -- remind yourself that the holidays may not be the same as they were in the past. Expecting everything to seem the same might lead to disappointment. Modify or make new traditions if it feels right.
- Accept that this might be a difficult time for you. Be prepared for rushes of emotions that may occur. This is normal. A lot of folks fear that they are going to “break-down” at get togethers. One thing you can try is to schedule your break down -- if you’re feeling pretty emotional, go ahead and have the cry before you go out. Allow yourself a moment to grieve. When emotions are temporarily depleted, it makes it easier to take on the day.
- Don't over commit yourself. Take time for yourself and take care of yourself. But, be careful not to isolate yourself. Try not to cut yourself off from the support of family and friends. Choose events that sound most appealing at the time and decline the ones that feel more like an obligation.
- If your faith is important, spend time with people who understand and respect your desire to pray and talk about common beliefs.
The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time of the year, but for people struggling with the death of a family member or other loved one, the holidays can be a difficult time. The holidays are such an emotional time that they can trigger... More -
Carol Milardo Floriani of Honor Society of Nursing (STTI) answered:First of all, acknowledge the loss and gather loved ones around you to provide you with support. Celebrate the holidays and remember the holidays you all did spend together. Reminisce; tell stories of the loved one, share experiences and feelings. Keep the loved one in spirit. During the holidays, put out photos of the loved one to keep them in mind during your celebrations. Toast them. Keep them in the conversation, they may be physically absent, but they are always in your heart.
First of all, acknowledge the loss and gather loved ones around you to provide you with support. Celebrate the holidays and remember the holidays you all did spend together. Reminisce; tell stories of the loved one, share experiences... More
