How can I change?

ACTION.  It really is the only way. Change is an action driven process and so we have to do the work in order to make a change.  It's not always easy and so as others have said, it helps to have a support system in place.  

Change begins when you become aware of the behavior you want to change. It also includes a deeper awareness of what is getting in the way of change. Once you become aware of what you want to change and what is getting in the way of change you have a choice about making the change. When people choose to make a positive change they usually look for experts or information to help facilitate that change. One of the most important things about change is to plan for it by setting goals and making those goals realistic. Planning and goal setting will allow you to figure out what steps you need to take to move through the process and it will allow you to see your successes.

You change when you perceive a problem or need for change. Initially you may focus on the difficulty of change and the reasons for not changing may outweigh the reasons for changing. If the problem continues you will start to see the positive in the reasons for change and begin planning for that change. Change is this area generally happens slowly. It may start through education, talking to family and friends, visiting a gym or by trying something that is not too taxing or exhausting; for example walking.

How can you change?  Ask for help.  You obviously are aware change needs to happen, but maybe you can't see a resolution because you are so close to the problem or maybe because you are the problem.  By asking for help from someone on the outside who is looking in, they are more than likely to see a resolution than you are.  They might have resources that they can provide to help you with whatever you are trying to change.  It is always good to have someone you trust, whether a companion, family member or a professional, to bounce ideas off of or to give you ideas to map out a way to help you become successful in "change".  We all need help at some point, so don't hesitate to ask.