What can I do if my child is a bully?
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RealAge answered:If you think your child is guilty of picking on others, you need to have the “that is not acceptable” conversation. Ask your child if he’s frustrated or angry about something. Is he a leader or a follower who is trying to fit in? Talk about alternatives to violent or intimidating behavior. Find out how you can help, but lay out consequences if the behavior doesn’t stop. Ask his teacher, coach, or counselor for help. Many schools have good bullying prevention programs. The site details initiatives in towns across America that are working to educate and engage students, parents, and their schools in bullying prevention.
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If you think your child is guilty of picking on others, you need to have the “that is not acceptable” conversation. Ask your child if he’s frustrated or angry about something. Is he a leader or a follower who is trying to fit in?... More -
Dr. Michele Borba answered:To allow bullying behaviors to continue will be disastrous to your child’s character, conscience, reputation, well-being and mental health. No matter the age, gender, religion, or ethnicity, any child resorting to bullying needs an immediate behavior intervention.
Please do not make the mistake of thinking that bullying just “a phase” or a “rite of passage.” Behaviors and attitudes turn into habits and can easily be entrenched and much harder to chance. Now is the time to help your child.
The good news is because bullying is a learned behavior it can also be unlearned. The sooner you begin the greater your success!
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Raychelle Lohmann answered:Parents, you play a key role in whether or not your child becomes a bully. A survey conducted with youths 10-17 years old suggests children are more likely to bully others if they feel their parents are frequently angry at them or if they feel that they are a nuisance to their parents. Parents who have a good relationship and talk openly with their kids raise kids who are less likely to bully others. Why? Teens need positive adult guidance and support, plus your input matters to your teen. Research is continuing to support the notion that although parents may think their teen doesn't watch and listen, they do. So, make time in your schedule to spend with your teen. Also, monitor what your teen is doing on-line. Bullies can become vicious if they're shielded by a screen. Parents, you play a vital role in the campaign to stop bullying.
Note: If you are a parent and struggling with your relationship with your teen, please get help. The adolescent years are short, pivotal years. If relationships are destroyed during this period of development, it can have an adverse impact on your future relationship with your child.
Parents, you play a key role in whether or not your child becomes a bully. A survey conducted with youths 10-17 years old suggests children are more likely to bully others if they feel their parents are frequently angry at them or if they feel that... More
