The secret cause of suffering is unreality itself. Recently I saw
dramatic evidence of this in a very ordinary way. I chanced on one
of those television programs where people who were born with
physical deformities are given a free makeover using the full
powers of plastic surgery, dentistry, and the beautician's art. On
this particular episode, the people who desperately wanted
makeovers were identical twins. Only one twin wanted to change her
looks; the other didn't. As adults, the twins no longer looked
exactly alike. The "ugly one" in a given pair had suffered a broken
nose or damaged teeth or had put on extra weight. The dramatic
thing for me was how minor these cosmetic defects were compared to
the intense belief, shared by both twins, that one was extremely
beautiful and the other distressingly ugly. The "ugly ones"
admitted that not a day went by without comparing themselves to
their "beautiful" siblings.
In this TV program one could witness all the steps that lead to
suffering:
- Overlooking actual facts
- Adopting a negative perception
- Reinforcing that perception by obsessive thinking
- Getting lost in the pain without looking for a way out
- Comparing yourself to others
- Cementing the suffering through relationships
The handbook on how to suffer would include all these steps, which
build up a sense of unreality until it seems totally real. And by
implication, the directions for putting an end to suffering would
reverse these steps and bring the person back to reality.
The secret cause of suffering is unreality itself. Recently I saw
dramatic evidence of this in a very ordinary way. I chanced on one
of those television programs where people who were born with
physical deformities are given a free makeover using...
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Deepak Chopra answered:The secret cause of suffering is unreality itself. Recently I saw dramatic evidence of this in a very ordinary way. I chanced on one of those television programs where people who were born with physical deformities are given a free makeover using the full powers of plastic surgery, dentistry, and the beautician's art. On this particular episode, the people who desperately wanted makeovers were identical twins. Only one twin wanted to change her looks; the other didn't. As adults, the twins no longer looked exactly alike. The "ugly one" in a given pair had suffered a broken nose or damaged teeth or had put on extra weight. The dramatic thing for me was how minor these cosmetic defects were compared to the intense belief, shared by both twins, that one was extremely beautiful and the other distressingly ugly. The "ugly ones" admitted that not a day went by without comparing themselves to their "beautiful" siblings.
