Dr. Michael T Murray answered:
Learn to help others. Our nature is to be giving, to be altruistic, to have an unselfish concern for the welfare of others. Although its focus is on others, altruism serves us indirectly. To illustrate this point, here is a favorite story of mine from Zig Zigler's book See You at the Top:
A man was given a tour of both Heaven and Hell, so he could intelligently select his final destination. The Devil was given first chance, so he started the "prospect" with a tour of Hell. The first glance was a surprising one because all occupants were seated at a banquet table loaded with every food imaginable, including meat from every corner of the globe, fruits and vegetables and every delicacy known to man. With justification, the Devil pointed out that no one could ask for more.
However, when the man looked carefully at the people he did not find a single smile. He heard no music nor did he see any indication of the gaiety generally associated with such a feast. The people at the table looked dull and listless and were literally skin and bones. The tourist noticed that each person had a fork strapped to the left arm and a knife strapped to the right arm. Each had a four foot handle which made it impossible to eat. So, with food of every kind at their fingertips, they were starving.
Next stop was Heaven, where the tourist saw a scene identical in every respect - same foods, knives and forks with those four-foot handles. However, the inhabitants of Heaven were laughing, singing, and having a great time. They were well fed and in excellent health. The tourist was puzzled for a moment. He wondered how conditions could be so similar and yet produce such different results. The people in Hell were starving and miserable, while the people in heaven were well-fed and happy. Then, he saw the reason. Each person in Hell had been trying to feed himself. A knife and fork with a four-foot handle made this impossible. Each person in Heaven was feeding the one across the table from him and was being fed by the one sitting on the opposite side. By helping one another, they helped themselves.Find out more about this book: What the Drug Companies Won't Tell You and Your Doctor Doesn't Know: The Al...Learn to help others. Our nature is to be giving, to be altruistic, to have an unselfish concern for the welfare of others. Although its focus is on others, altruism serves us indirectly. To illustrate this point, here is a favorite story of mine... More