2 AnswersRobin Miller, Integrative Medicine, answeredIt is essential for your health to try to think positive and be optimistic. In this video, Dr. Robin Miller explains why looking on the bright side is good for the entire body.
2 AnswersAmerican Diabetes Association answeredAssertive communication means that both your needs and the needs of the other person are equally important and respected. Assertive statements often begin with “I.” For example, “I find it helpful when you don’t keep chips in the house.” This statement is more effective than a blaming or aggressive statement (“You always try to undermine everything I do”) or reacting passively and being inwardly resentful.
1 AnswerLynne Kenney, Psychology, answered
Respect is an attitude. It is an experience of honor, esteem, consideration, and caring.
Respect can be for oneself, for another person, for another being, and even for a valued inanimate object, such as a piece of art or a hand-made musical instrument.
Respect is paying thoughtful consideration to another person’s words, feelings, thoughts, ideas, wishes or needs.
Respect is a feeling as well as a behavior.
Respect is revering or honoring another person. When you respect someone, you not only appreciate them for their standing in society, you might place them in a position above you on a feeling level or in practice. As an example, if you respect your grandfather, you may allow him to be seated at the dinner table before you sit down as a sign of respect.
1 AnswerLynne Kenney, Psychology, answeredYour behavior is the outside representation of what you value. If you wonder about what you value, look at your daily behavior and actions. Do you get up in the morning and do yoga? Do you enjoy making breakfast and eating as a family before you start your day? Do you have a family game night? Do you attend services every week? All of these activities reflect what you care about, what matters to you. These reflect what you value. If you work hard, you value hard work; if you play hard, you value play. Maybe both values apply, or entirely different ones.
Simply look at what you do and how you live. Talk with your partner about what he or she values; ask your friends what they value. Notice how people exhibit their own values in the world around you. You might find yourself starting to take notes or making lists. That can be very helpful.
1 AnswerJacob Teitelbaum, Integrative Medicine, answered
A friend and highly respected teacher of mine, Brugh Joy, M.D., notes that “the tension of opposites creates!” This statement recognizes that our psyches are constantly growing.
If we have a conflict that we cannot reconcile at our current level of consciousness or growth, we have an option other than burying the conflict and sapping our energy to keep it unconscious. We can simply stay conscious of the conflict and recognize that we do not yet have a solution to it at our current level of growth.
The interesting thing is that you may find that it is perfectly okay to simply recognize that there is not a ready solution to the conflict. Many times there is no real choice that has to be made at this time. If there is, simply continue to feel your way through them when they have to be made.
5 AnswersDarren Treasure, PhD, Sports Medicine, answered
For most people an event usually triggers a desire to change - we visit the doctor who tells us we are “at-risk” for developing a disease. A friend or relative suffers a heart attack. We see an advertisement for a health club that raises the issue of physical inactivity. We read a newspaper article or hear a Public Service Announcement on the health status of the nation. It could that th we get out of breath when we take the stairs rather than the escalator.
More likely, we can’t fit into the jeans we used to wear or we want to drop a few pounds before a social event, like a reunion. Or it is simply a milestone such as a birthday or that time of year that tradition dictates we should commit to getting better – New Year’s!!!
No matter what the reason the overwhelming amount of evidence shows that within 3-months, 50% of people who have started to change will have failed. That’s right-1 out of every 2 people. This tells us that changing behavior is really hard. You can be successful but it will not happen by chance. You need a plan and you need to take full advantage of the information that we now know about getting and staying active. You also need to have a passion for change.
There needs to be a powerful reason for why you want to change. Without this passion you are unlikely to weather the adversity that will come during this process. Times when everything seems to be against you; when the voice inside your head is telling you that you do not need to get up and move today or eat a healthy snack, rather than the sweet treat that is left-over in your refrigerator from the holidays. When you combine a passion to change with a good plan you are increasing the odds that you will be successfully and becoming the person you want to be.
1 AnswerJ.Lucy Boyd, Epidemiology, answered
I'm not aware of any known connection between premature heart disease and narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissistic personality disorder can cause a great deal of stress in the individual, which is a risk factor for heart disease. This risk may be increased if the individual uses poor stress management techniques such as smoking cigarettes or drinking more than a moderate amount of alcohol.
1 AnswerKathleen Hall, Preventive Medicine, answeredIntimacy invites us to "into-me-see." The landscape of intimacy is fraught with uncertainty and questions. But it also filled with love, hope, partnership, sharing, communion, and endless possibilities for transformation and new life. Intimacy is an essential element for anyone to experience a life of true happiness.
True intimacy with oneself, with another, and with community promises endless opportunities for physical, mental, and spiritual growth and well-being. Our cultural myth of rugged individualism is destroying us on every level, but the truth is "isolation kills and community heals."
Love as intimacy replenishes and sustains our minds, bodies, and souls, and is created and fostered in community. It is a primal need of humans as social beings to belong to something greater than our individual selves. A transcendent healing power transforms us and graces us when we live and thrive in community. Relationships heal and sustain us in all of their forms including families, friends, clubs, organizations, neighborhoods, towns, states, and countries. Studies have shown how isolation leads to chronic stress and disease. Relationship is the path to real intimacy and the feelings of connection that heal. It draws us together and makes us whole. As we expand our definition of love, intimacy, and community we can begin to discover the nurturing support that is the path to true happiness in life.
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1 AnswerSheri Van Dijk, Psychiatry, answered
With practice, yes. Mindfulness is about focusing on the present moment, and accepting whatever you happen to find in the present. Acceptance - or being nonjudgmental - is a challenge; think of how most of us grow up, constantly hearing judgments: "that's good" or "that's bad"; you're "right" or "wrong", "what were you thinking??" and so on. Our society is a judgmental one, and growing up in a judgmental society means that we usually are quite judgmental ourselves.
While it is a challenge for our mind to pay attention to something without judging it, it certainly is possible with a lot of practice. Start by just noticing your judgments; often we can actually reduce an unwanted behavior just by paying more attention to it. Once you start to notice your judgments, you can work on changing them into nonjudgmental or neutral statements, by sticking to the facts of the situation, and expressing your emotions about the situation (it's important to remember that most of the time we judge because we're feeling some kind of painful emotion, such as anger, hurt, fear, etc.). Think of being nonjudgmental as being assertive: you're still expressing your thoughts and feelings, but you're doing it in a nonjudgmental, non-blaming way.
So remember: the first step is increasing your awareness. Just make sure that, once you become more aware of your judgments, you don't judge yourself for judging - remind yourself that it's normal, your human...AND that this is a behavior you want to reduce. Reducing your judgments, and bringing more acceptance into your life, is a healthier, happier way of living; so it's worth the hard work!
1 AnswerTonya Bolden, Alternative & Complementary Medicine, answered
“Not easy” is a concept many people have trouble accepting, especially in America. Most Americans believe they are entitled to easy. But in many respects, easy is not better.
Using spell check is easier than proofing your writing the old fashioned way - with your two eyes and your mind. But doesn’t it make our mental muscle a bit flabby? Allowing children to hole up in their rooms watching TV or playing video games for hours on end is easy but not in the child’s best interest. “At least he’s not running the streets,” you may say. True. He may even be improving his hand eye coordination. But if he’s playing violent games, he may also be desensitizing his soul. What’s more, when it’s time for the child to study for an algebra test or write an essay, he may not be able to focus on the task because things aren’t exciting enough for him, not moving fast enough.
It’s easy and getting easier to feed children and ourselves fast food and microwave meals than it is to shop for fresh food and prepare it with an eye on optimum nutrition. Taking a pill for what ails you is easier than changing your diet and trading time before the tube for time on the treadmill. Plunking down plastic is easier than saving up and paying cash. But all this easy is making our lives more difficult on some levels.
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