Nice girls seem to swing in one of two directions. Either you’re always making plans, living in the future, and missing out on today, or you’re floating through life on automatic pilot doing what you’re told, following what you learned in childhood, and spending your life trying to live up to unrealistic ideals and expectations - that half the time aren’t even yours! Why bother getting up every day and busting your butt if you have no idea why you’re doing what you’re doing . . . and aren’t even enjoying it? Are you a robot? If not, then you need to find your own purpose, passion, and meaning in life.
You may drift toward food because it’s the most fun thing in your day. Do you get psyched about dining out because it’s the most interesting and exciting part of your week? Adventures in food land do not a happy life make. Living purposely means setting realistic goals and then making conscious choices that move you toward them. And not living exclusively in or for the future. It’s a tricky business staying in the moment while keeping aware of what lies ahead. When you’re engaged in the moment and caught up in the positive momentum of life (called flow), you’re too busy and happy to eat.Generally, it’s not the thinking about life that gets you, it’s the emotions that knock you senseless. You agonize about what you should be doing, if you need to do better, if you ought to be doing something else. You worry and feel guilty and conflicted and don’t get to enjoy every precious second. The truth is that staying connected to your feelings is exactly what helps you live a purposeful life because it tells you what makes you happy and what doesn’t. If you tend toward anxiety and living in the future, you need to work on gently pushing it away and developing faith in your gut reactions. If you incline toward impulsivity and drifting mindlessly toward unforeseen consequences and vague life goals, you’ll have to sit down and engage in a little heart-to-heart with yourself about the meaning of life in general and the meaning of yours in particular.
Find out more about this book:Nice Girls Finish Fat: Put Yourself First and Change Your Eating Forever