To live in fear is the worst form of insult to our true selves. By having such a low regard for who we are -- for our instincts and abilities and worth -- we build a cage around ourselves. To prevent others from shutting us down, we do it for them. Trapped by our own fears, we then pretend that we’re incapable of having what we want, forever waiting for others to give us permission to start living. Pretty soon, we start to believe this is the only way.