When we try to live up to the expectations of others -- our family of origin, our family of choice, our culture, our memberships, our employers -- we compromise our authenticity. In fact, we may be estranged from who we really are and what we would really like to do. This results in anxiety. Perhaps it is the anxiety at the core of all anxiety, that is, the anxiety of not living the life we would truly like to live. Certainly, it contributes to death anxiety. In that sense, it would seem that death anxiety is related to life anxiety. If I am living in a way that is true to myself, would I fear death? And if I fear death, am I really living as I would like to be living? If I lived my life without trying to meet the expectations of anyone else, who would I be, how would I live? If I knew my life were coming to an end within a specific amount of time, how would I live now?
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