Living With Fibromyalgia
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- Q Should my spouse and I seek counseling if I have fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationIt’s a sign of strength to know when you need outside help to overcome your differences or communication breakdowns. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you decide you need marriage counseling, want to join a support group, or decide to meet with... Full Answer
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- Q How can I make my spouse feel loved when one has fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationAsk each other: “How can I show you that I love you?” Welcome to the “Hugs Department.” There’s an old saying that “hugs are the universal medicine.” Even if you are struggling in this relationship, saying,... Full Answer
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- Q Why should I ask my spouse or partner how my fibromyalgia affected him/her?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationSpouses or partners need to ask each other: “What has this been like for you?” This simple question may uncover a hornet’s nest of complaints, a flood of feelings, or no new information at all. It’s only understandable that... Full Answer
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- Q Why might my spouse and I reconsider roles if one of us has fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationYour past roles and the division of labor in your marriage or partnership may now be turned upside down. In essence, you have two new job descriptions to write. This is a critical task that should not be overlooked. Couples’ misunderstandings or... Full Answer
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- Q Why is maintaining normalcy important for me as a fibromyalgia patient?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationYou need a cocoon of normalcy in order to function on a daily basis. Author and psychotherapist Rachael Freed says, “Everyone outside the patient wants ‘normal’ to return because it’s so threatening for them.” But having a... Full Answer
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- Q How can past communication success help partners talk about fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationAsk yourself: When were we most successful in communicating with each other in the past? Fibromyalgia is like an uninvited houseguest that’s here to stay. Your current communications may be hampered by unspoken feelings of anxiety,... Full Answer
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- Q How might my relationship be affected if I have fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationFibromyalgia profoundly affects relationships, marriages, and long-term partnerships. Being in constant pain and disabled can magnify a relationship’s past imperfections or strengthen what was already strong between spouses and... Full Answer
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- Q Why is preparing my own food helpful for weight control with fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationIf you can cook, you win two big points in the diet war. Preparing at least some meals yourself can be invaluable in weight loss and management because you can control the quality of the ingredients. The University of Tennessee’s nutrition expert... Full Answer
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- Q What questions can I ask myself to manage my weight and fibromyalgia?
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Dr. Dede Bonner, Health EducationYour health challenges may be just the right wake-up call to finally take charge of your weight issues. There is no specific diet recommended for people with fibromyalgia, but many medical experts suspect there are important food connections and ones to... Full Answer
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- Q How do I find a fibromyalgia support group?
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Celeste Cooper, RheumatologyThere are many online fibromyalgia support groups. However, if you are looking for a local support group, check out the websites of some of the large fibromyalgia groups. Another good place to start is through your local Arthritis Foundation. You should... Full Answer
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