You may not believe that self-judgments have much of an impact on emotions or how you think and feel about yourself. But self-judgments are a form of verbal abuse. When you criticize yourself for making a mistake by calling yourself stupid, or worthless, or an idiot, you're verbally abusing yourself. What would you think, and how would you feel, if someone else were speaking to you this way? Would you tolerate it? Or, probably a better question, would you speak to your best friend this way? Probably not. So why is it okay to do it to yourself? Speaking to yourself this way over time leads to lower self-esteem and increases your painful emotions.
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