Remind yourself that there is no right or wrong decision. And the decision is not yours -- but your teen's -- to make.
Regardless of whether or not your teen decides to share, try not to nag. Be cautious of how you say things or ask questions because often parents hover with tone rather than words. Feeling ownership over diabetes will build confidence in his ability to manage diabetes as he matures into self-sufficiency.
Help your teen make this decision by asking:
- How would you react if roles were reversed?
- What do you think your friend's response would be?
- Will it complicate things if you decide not to share?
- How will you handle dosing for a meal or snack?
- What snacks will you bring and how will you carry them around?
- Will you be too anxious about how you're going to manage diabetes to have a good time?
- What if you guys want to play tennis? Are you okay with checking your blood glucose (BG) if you need to?
- How would you handle a serious high or low?
- Suggest making it quick and simple, like, "I have diabetes so I have to plan a little when I eat. I keep track of my blood glucose levels and give myself insulin."
- Reassure your child that most people are very caring and concerned, sometimes curious, too.
- Prepare your child to be ready to answer a lot of questions. In fact, that's a good sign - and it could mean a second date!