Are you holding onto a grudge? Maybe an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend broke your heart, or a coworker took credit for your work? Saying "I forgive you" and meaning it -- even if you only say it to yourself -- can help you heal. Like chronic stress, holding onto bitterness and hostility releases a brew of feel-bad chemicals into your body that are harmful to your depression recovery, but letting go of big grievances can help you overcome depression and anxiety. It's not about pretending you weren't treated badly. Start by recognizing that holding a grudge hurts you, not the one who wronged you. Whenever you find yourself tensing up, take some deep breaths, and then let it go. If forgiveness takes a while, that's OK. The person you're letting off the hook is you.