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2 AnswersIt's often helpful to incorporate putting on a condom as part of sex play. You can continue rubbing or stimulating a guy in other ways while he puts on the condom, instead of both of you stopping and focusing on the condom. Or, put on the condom by yourself, using your hands or mouth, to keep the stimulation and the sexual rhythm going. Adding some store-bought lubricant to the outside of the condom, after it is already on and completely rolled down the penis, can also help to increase a man's sensation, which may help him to keep his erection.
If your guy complains that he can't stay hard during intercourse because of a condom, which often reduces sensitivity, he can try a thinner latex condom, like the Kimono brand, or a condom made from polyisoprene or polyurethane, which may provide even more sensation for many men. Size matters, too: Condoms are available in "snugger fit" and larger sizes to accommodate a range of penis sizes more comfortably.
1 AnswerIt may sound like an excuse to get out of wearing a condom, but many guys have problems maintaining an erection when putting one on. The interruption of sex play is often distracting, as is the stress of putting on a condom. Other times, deeper concerns, like guilt or performance anxiety, manage to seep into a guy's consciousness when there's a pause in sexual activity.
1 AnswerMichael Roizen, MD, Internal Medicine, answeredStudies of condom use consistently show that people just don't get it right. Don't assume that you know. Although most people perform only three or four steps correctly, there are six essential steps to using a condom properly:
1. Buy only latex condoms and use a new condom for each episode of intercourse, even if you don't ejaculate each time. Make sure you use condoms that say they protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Joke or novelty condoms may not provide protection. Make sure that the condoms have not passed their expiration date, that the foil pack is intact, and that they have not been left too long in a place where they could get damaged (for example, in the sun -- or in a wallet!).
2. Open the package carefully, being sure to avoid damaging the condom with either your fingernails or some other sharp object.
3. Place the condom on the erect penis prior to any intimate contact (some STDs, such as gonorrhea, can be transmitted even without penetration). Roll the condom down to the base of the penis, where the penis connects with the body. Make sure the fit is snug.
4. Leave a space at the tip of the condom and remove any air pockets from that space.
5. Use only water-based lubricants such as KY jelly or spermicidal foam or gel. Never use oil-based lubricants, such as Vaseline, petroleum jelly, lotions, or mineral oil, as these destroy the latex. Also, many condoms are treated with nonoxynol-9, a spermicide and lubricant that seems to provide some added protection against human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) and other types of STD infection. It is probably a good idea to use this type of condom, as it gives added protection just in case.
6. Withdraw immediately after ejaculation, while the penis is still erect, holding the condom firmly against the base of the penis.
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1 AnswerBrigham and Women's Hospital answeredPetroleum jelly, hand lotion, lipstick, lip balm, or other oil-based lubricants can destroy the strength of condoms, causing them to break. If you would like to use a lubricant with a condom, use a water-based product such as K-Y jelly, Gyne-Moistrin, Astroglide, or lubricating gel. Some condoms are lubricated and will specify as such on the packaging. Contraceptive foams or jellies also can be good lubricants.
1 AnswerBrigham and Women's Hospital answeredAlthough sterilization protects against pregnancy, it does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases including HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. When used properly, latex condoms are the only method that protects against sexually transmitted diseases. For adequate protection, you should use a condom every time you have vaginal intercourse, and when you have anal or oral sex.
2 AnswersStacy Wiegman, PharmD, Pharmacy, answeredWhen used properly, condoms are a very effective form of birth control. If you use condoms correctly every time you have intercourse, studies show that they prevent pregnancy from occurring 97% of the time. However, in the real world condoms are somewhat less effective, preventing pregnancy more like 80% to 90%. For maximum protection, a man should use a condom throughout intercourse and make sure it remains on his penis until he has withdrawn from the vagina. Some people worry that condoms will break during intercourse due to poor quality, but that happens rarely.
1 AnswerJill Grimes, MD, Family Medicine, answered
Condoms absolutely decrease greatly your risk of sexually transmitted infections (STDs), especially for the STDs transmitted via body fluids -- gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, and trichomoniasis. However, condoms can only cover one area. Diseases that can be transmitted outside that area, by direct skin-to-skin contact, can still be spread despite proper condom use. Which diseases are these? Herpes, HPV (the wart virus), syphilis, and pubic lice (crabs).
Also, because there is a roughly 10% failure rate of condoms through breakage, there is still a chance (1 in 10) of being exposed to potential disease. Not to mention that in real life studies, condom failure rates are more like 20%, because they are simply not used consistently.
Condoms are very helpful in decreasing disease transmission, but don't be fooled that simply using condoms guarantees safe sex.
1 AnswerJill Grimes, MD, Family Medicine, answered
Unless the person you are having sex with has never before been intimate with another partner, you are not exposing yourself to just one person when you have sex without using a condom. When you get together with a partner, you are actually hooking up with all of that person's former partners, and everyone those partners have been with, and so on and so on. Think of it as a pyramid.
This is the number one reason that you can catch a sexually transmitted disease (STD) from having unprotected sex just once. Once might mean once, but usually means five, 10, 50 or 100 exposures.
When you are sexually intimate with one person, you are exposed to everyone they have hooked up with in their past, and those partners' former partners, and so on.
1 AnswerGood In Bed answeredMany guys have problems maintaining an erection when putting on a condom. The interruption of sex play is often distracting, as is the stress of putting on a condom. Other times, deeper concerns, like guilt or performance anxiety, manage to seep into a guy's consciousness when there's a pause in sexual activity.
It's often helpful to incorporate putting on a condom as part of sex play -- what some people refer to as "eroticizing" condom use. Men who complain that they can't maintain an erection during intercourse because of a condom, which often reduces sensitivity, can try a thinner latex condom, like the Kimono brand, or a condom that properly fits the size of their penis. Condoms are available in "snugger fit" and larger sizes to accommodate a range of penis sizes more comfortably. Condoms remain the most effective means of reducing the risk of sexually transmitted infections and HIV/AIDS between partners, and they are an important part of many couples' sex lives.