Start by tuning into your child. Look for a special talent, trait, skill or passion in your child that deserves praise. Maybe you notice your child displays an artistic skill.
Next, find a moment when he really demonstrates the talent. This is when you can acknowledge the skill.
Voice your message so your child knows exactly what he did to deserve your praise: “Kevin, you are so artistic because you use such wonderful colors and details in your drawings.” And always use the same word to describe the talent (”artistic” or “musical” or “kind-hearted.”)
Using the word “because” in your comment instantly makes your praise more specific.
Then, praise the same skill or talent several more times over the next few weeks. That way your child will then be more likely to believe the message, and adopt it to form a new belief about himself.
Keep in mind that new behavior habits take a minimum of 21 days of repetition. The lower the self-esteem of the child the more frequently you’ll have to repeat the praise.