If you start to feel depressed and lose interest in activities that you used to enjoy, you can benefit from trying some cognitive behavioral interventions on yourself. Because your child with ADHD is so sensitive, she will be dramatically affected by your state of mind. Recent research has shown that a mother's depression has a serious impact on her child's behavior. The good news is that when a mother's depression improves, the child's behavior improves too. According to pediatric psychiatrist Scott Shannon, "Researchers also found that kids of moms with improved depression showed marked reductions in their symptoms. A full third of the labeled kids lost their labels when their moms got better" So anything you can do to help yourself will indirectly help your child, in part because as you help yourself you will be more patient and loving toward your child. You will also have more energy to spend quality time with your child and build the relationship that will be the foundation for coping with and transforming the diagnosis of ADHD.
Try to remember that the more you blame yourself, the more you'll feel guilty about your child's ADHD, and the more your energy will be diverted away from helping your child. It can sometimes be difficult to see how this dynamic works, as guilt pulls at your attention. The CBT exercises will help you discover how guilt and self- blame work against your efforts to help your child thrive.
Find out more about this book:The Gift of ADHD: How to Transform Your Child's Problems into Strengths